After you have been in a dating relationship for a while, you may sink into a routine and begin to forget the exhilarating passion you used to feel. Fortunately, this isn’t a necessary side effect of a long-term relationship, and it is possible to keep things exciting for months and years to come. Here are five ideas to get you thinking about how to keep the fire alive.
Relive Your First Date
Sometimes, the best way to remember the passionate feelings you had at the start of your dating relationship is to go back to where they all began. Make reservations at that first restaurant you visited, pick up your date, and don’t kiss unless it happened that first time. You can even try re-introducing yourselves and asking the basic questions that you already know the answers to. You might be surprised when it feels like you are discovering love all over again.
Start a Project Together
Find a long-term endeavor that both of you can work on throughout your dating relationship. Have you always talked about fixing up your garage but never gotten around to it? Invite your significant other to help out and contribute ideas for the redesign. Do you love cooking together? Try making your own salsa (or pasta sauce or hot chocolate mix) and sending it to your friends. These projects will give you lots of quality time to spend together and get to know each other. Plus, you will end up with a great finished product you can be proud of together.
Have “getaway” Nights
Every few weeks, spend a night with no distractions but each other. Leave phones, computers, and anything else that connects you to the world at home. Go to a small restaurant where you won’t see anyone you know. Take an evening to pretend that you’re the only two people on Earth. If you want, spend the night at a hotel in town to really feel like you’re getting away.
Write Letters to Each Other
Even if you see each other every day, write letters back and forth. Writing down your thoughts not only lets you open up your heart and mind in a new way, but it gives you a permanent way to hold on to those feelings forever. Two lovers exchanging letters is a classic romantic cliché and it may be the perfect way to reignite the passion of your dating relationship.
Give Simple Gifts.
Sure, holidays are times to give elaborate, expensive gifts. Let every day be an opportunity to give small, simple gifts, though. You’ll have just as much fun picking them out as your partner will when receiving them. Sometimes, the smallest things make the biggest difference.
Read Through a Book Together
Find a novel that addresses a subject matter you’re both interested in. Set up a schedule for how frequently you will each read and discuss your views at the end of each chapter. It’s a very good way to get the discussion going and get a deeper look into each other’s thoughts. Who says a dating relationship cannot also be a book club?
If your dating relationship doesn’t feel as exciting as it used to, don’t worry! These tips should get your mind thinking about fun and intimate ways to remember the love you’ve always had.